It's not anyone's fault, it's just there's no discovery, excitement, anticipation, or newness. It's the same sex you've been having for years.
And for a while, it was fine with me. We'd take off our clothes, rub each other a little, and that was enough.
But as marriage wore on, I got a little older, and I was still engaging in my sexual fantasies on the side, sex with my wife became more infrequent. My wife's concerns started with a few grumbles, and turned into some complaints.
I was still into femdom porn at the time, and one afternoon decided to confide in her that I needed something else to spark my interest. For some reason, my wife is very sexually unadventurous. She claims she doesn't like to have her pussy licked, and she only likes missionary position. (It took me forever just to get her to try being on top)
At first I told her that I wanted to try little things like pussy licking, but she didn't want to. Eventually, I decided to see if perhaps she'd be interested in femdom. But let me go back in my story a little bit...
You see, at one time she had expressed an interest in femdom before I even knew it existed. When we were first married, we were at a party. A friend of a friend was talking openly about some of the sexual things they had tried in their marriage.
The girl mentioned that she had fucked the guy with a strapon. This was way before my discovery of femdom porn, and although I was not judgmental of the couple, the very thought of it kind of repulsed me. In my own mind, I was a regular guy, and what type of guy lets a girl do that to him?
For some reason that night, my wife was all hot and heavy. She was grinding up against me, and mentioned the story.
"Oh," I said wanting to play it off.
"Would you ever be interested in that?" she ground up against my ass.
"What?" I said kind of weirded out. I mean, this was my wife, "No."
"Come on, wouldn't you let me do it?" she said turned on.
I'll admit it. I was weirded out and rejected her. For a whole week, she brought up the subject, and I flatly refused her, even getting a little offended and angry about it. I told her to go fuck her friend if she wanted to fuck someone. After a while, she gave up on the idea and never brought it up again.
Once I went through the many stages from rejection to acceptance of femdom, I remembered that moment. On impulse one day, I bought my wife a strapon and surprised her with it.
I guess, just a warning to any husbands who maybe want to surprise their girlfriends or wives with extreme fetish toys, that maybe it's better to slowly warm them up to the idea before you just surprise them one day and say, "Hey, I bought you a strapon."
Anyway, I did it the wrong way, and my wife pulled it out of the bag looking at it like I was crazy.
"What's this?" she said completely surprised.
"Remember that one time..." I went on to explain.
"No," she disgustedly dropped it in the bag and handed it back to me, "We're not doing this. What would make you go out and buy that?"
Now she was the one rejecting me, and I felt a little stupid at the time.
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